It’s a question I get asked often. “Why do you go by yourself?” “Doesn’t it get boring?” or I get this, “I just couldn’t do it!” It’s solo travel.
So let me answer this in a way that might come across as crass. I travel by myself because 1) I don’t want to miss out on seeing something, 2) you can miss out on a lot of things by not travelling 3) It’s healing and 4) If you can’t travel by yourself then why even travel.
Let me answer the questions I get asked so often:
“Why do you go by yourself?” Simple answer is because I can. I don’t have this predisposed notion that I have to be with someone just to go away. You miss out on too much. Is that how we are supposed to live our lives? Sitting at home waiting to see if someone will want to go do and see the same things you want. Sorry, not my cup of tea.
“Doesn’t it get boring?” Simple answer, yes, it can. But it can also be boring at home with someone sitting on the couch and watching the latest dribble they call reality television.
So to the reasons I travel by myself:
1. “I don’t want to miss out on seeing something.” Pearl Jam is my favorite band to see live. Period. 3-3.5 hours of pure energy.They decided to tour this year but alas they were not coming to the west coast. So I decided that if I was going to see them I would have to pack my bags and just go. So Ottawa it was. It just worked best. I’d never been and I felt it was important to go see our wonderful nations capital. So I booked a flight, purchased a ticket and got a room and went. Which leads to point two…….
2. “You can miss out on a lot of things by not travelling.” My plan was simple. Get in on the Saturday, check in to the hotel, eat dinner, have a drink, go upstairs, watch a movie, go to bed. Wake up, see some sites, have dinner, go to the concert, have a drink at the hotel, go to bed. Wake up, go to the airport, go home. Pretty simple, except for the first night. After ordering my food I met two gentlemen at the bar and proceeded to strike up a conversation with them. Turns out they were there for the concert as well. A few pleasantries here and there and I was ready to go to bed, until one of them asked if I wanted to join them as they were going out for the evening.
Now….you know when that little voice inside your head tells you to you shouldn’t go, just stick to the plan. Listen to it. I didn’t. What could go wrong. Well, next thing I know it’s 2:30 am and I’m outside of a strip club wondering if I’m going to have to break up a fight between the two guys I went out with. WTF! Listen to the voice.
3.”It’s healing.” It is. Going through my separation i learned that you have to keep moving forward.So do the things you love. For me it’s travelling. It healed. I am in a much better place today because of where I went and what I did.
4.”If you can’t travel by yourself, why travel?” Pretty self explanatory. There are amazing things to see out there. The Northern Lights, the Eiffel Tower, the Great Wall, the Galapagos and so on. Are you going to miss out seeing these incredible things because your friends or family aren’t interested. Shame on you then. Make them jealous. See Stonehenge, the fjords of Norway, or Ayers Rock. When you get back all you’ll hear is “I wish I could do that.” The funny part is most people can, they just don’t want to.
So I guess what i’m trying to say is go, see the world. It’s not as big as you think, and really in the grand scheme of things, there’s not a lot of time for you to see them. Are you going to work all your life and wish, or are you going to go. I know what I’m going to do.
(Parliament Hill – Ottawa)